Are you considered to be Sexy?

At lunchtime today I switched on the TV and the programme Loose Women was on. Normally I would switch to another channel, but the topic they were talking about caught my attention – the topic was about 'being sexy'- how to look sexy.

The English Dictionary's definition of 'sexy is: "provoking or intended to provoke sexual interest".

We all know that sex is a never ending writing and talking about topic. Media constantly push out the headlines, 'how to look sexy'. And of course it helps to do something on the surface, like having a new haircut, buy new make-up colours, or buy some new clothes etc. Just doing a little thing such as having a lovely shower and washing your hair is really refreshing and makes you feel much better.

But all the above are short term gratifications. True sexiness, comes from inside. To me, people that are sexy, they are kind, relaxed, ooze with charm which stems from being present, they listen to what people have to say and they have a big sense of humour.

Watch people who you think are sexy, what is it that you see in them, what qualities do they have?

Many, many women and men are working too hard on trying to look sexy. What we need to do first, or at least in parallel to working on how we look, is to start to pay attention to inside ourselves. How do you really feel about yourself?

A little food for thought: What can you do today (just a tiny little thing), that will make you feel better from inside, that will bring you closer to feeling sexy?

Here are a couple of examples if you find it tricky to come up with something:

• Spend one minute 'me time'

• Do one thing that makes you feel kind to yourself

• Take three breaths in and three breaths out whilst paying attention to your breaths

• Do one thing to be kind to your body, like slooow down a bit, reduce the stress.

92 year-old Yoga Master

This is a video clip that speaks for itself. Tao Porcho-Lycnh is a Yoga Master and she is 92 years old!

If this clip touches your heart, take a moment and think about what it is that makes you feel like that.

To me, watching this, shows me that age has nothing to do vitality and as I would put it, Sparkle.

I have taken a commitment to myself that I as I grow older I'm making sure that I will continue to be healthy emotionally, mentally and physically.

Now I have even reason I started to practise and teach Nia dance movement technique.

The reason we feel stressed

Here is something that in a simple way describes what stress is about:

You are here and you want to be there.

Simple.

How to feel less stressed

Stress is about where you are right now and where you want to be. Stress occurs because you want to do something else than what you are doing now, or you want things to be different from how they are now.

Take 30 seconds or so to consider this: are you present to what you are doing or being at the moment, or are you heading off (in your mind) somewhere else?

For the rest of the day, just notice when your mind is somewhere else rather than being here, now.

Just by taking notice to this – will help you to feel less stressed.

Fed up paying money to a gym?

Have you given up on getting healthy and fit? Perhaps you have even bought a membership to a gym. At first, you are really enthusiastic about that you have decided to and committed yourself to actually get healthy and fit!

After a little while (from zero to a few months) you start to slowly lose that enthusiasm and sooner or later you stop going, and you feel guilty about it for a while.

You could instead just send your membership money to the gym and write on a card, here is money from me to contribute to your gym.

I've been there, I actually continued to pay my subscription for months. I thought that I would eventually start to go to the gym again, but I never did.

Exercising at the gym can be a good thing, there are many people who go there for years and they feel healthy and fit. But I'm turning to those of you who are fed up with spending money on somebody else's health and fitness.

Enthusiasm fades away but there is hope

It's totally normal to be enthusiastic and then stop. The main reason we give up is it stops being inspiring. The evidence of that is you give up.

I would like to introduce you to something that could potentially work for you, to feel healthy and fit, and that is Nia Dance Movement.

Nia is a sensory-based movement practice that leads to health, wellness and fitness.

Nia is Not about doing the steps "right"

I am a qualified Nia teacher and hold classes in the South East of England for women. Often women say to me when they hear about Nia "I can't dance" or "I have two left feet". But, before I start each class, I say specifically to new people:

• Nia is about the Joy of Movement.

• You can’t do anything wrong, there is no such thing as right or wrong in the class, it's about 'The Joy of Movement'.

• If you move in the opposite direction to me, just continue and enjoy your "mistake".

It's about starting to feel comfortable in your body, move in your body's way

If you still don't understand what I'm talking about, then you just have to come to a class and experience the joy of movement.

Many women who start to practise Nia find it really inspiring, they start to feel more alive and sparkly so they naturally continue to practise Nia probably for a lifetime.

Here is a the official link to Nia where you can search for your nearest class, click here.

Here is the link where you can get a Nia DVD so that you can practice at home, click here.

At the top right hand corner, you will find a purple square to click.