Are You a Sex Object or a Mum?

I know it might sound odd to ask, but I came across this question recently – and I love intriguing questions or statements like this, it really made me think. Are these the only two choices that we have as women? I want to bring this to the table to have a look at.

It seems like if you are a woman with children, you are often perceived as being only a mum. Of course you are a mum, but I’ve been talking to many women who are mums and they say that after a while they feel that they lose their sparkle, and they don’t know how to rediscover it again. They continue to be perceived as a mum, and they ask the question "what about me", I want to be ME, not just a mum. They want to feel more feminine, sensual and sexy as well.

Being a Sex Object doesn't work either

The other side of the coin is that a woman is perceived as a sex object. I don’t really need to explain that in detail – I think that you get my drift. This is also a box to put a woman into, into the “sex object box”. I've been talking to women who look and behave sexy and they say that they want to meet a partner, want to have a long loving intimate relationship with someone, but for some reason it never seem to work out.

I have no judgments about the two different ways to be or behave, there is nothing wrong with either being a mum or being sexy, but I’m curious and found it very interesting, what about other choices? Surely it is possible to be a mum AND sexy. Surely a women can be sexy without being a sex object.

The most important thing is for you to be truly you, whether you are mum or anything else. The two examples above show that the mum and the sex object woman have lost the sense of who they really are. What they need to do is to find their true nature again, rediscover their sparkle, then it doesn't really matter if they are perceived as a mum or not.

Claim your Sparkle back for YOU

To suppress or hide the feminine and sensual and sexual part of you, can make you feel that you are lacking something, sometimes this emerges as low self-esteem, you don’t feel like you, you are just a part of who you truly are. If you feel that “lack” then it’s time to get the sparkle back, but not to be an object of someone else’s standards or wishes. There is only ONE reason to sparkle and this is for YOU and nobody else.

Wikipedia describes feminine attributes as, (notice I didn’t say feminine physical attributes) “personality traits such as nurturing, life-giving qualities, creativity, and an openness, or yielding, to other people.” That’s sounds nice, doesn’t it? More balanced, everybody wins. You get to define who YOU are.