What do you think?

I know that as a woman it's often tricky and even difficult to get our points of view across, we might not even go there, because we don't feel confident enough.

I have found a gentle and subtle way to 'find my voice' to really say what it is that I want to say. There are three key areas that I practice on regular basis and that have brought me closer to who I am and my purpose in life, and that have brought my Sparkle back in life again. These are the areas:

• Dancing, especially free-dancing
• Writing
• Thinking

Today I want to talk about Thinking. Thinking is something that we all do – most of the time our brain is just "thinking for us", or even "at us", if you know what I mean. I have met many people who say that they want to quieten their minds, there are so many thoughts going around and around that they sometimes feel quite overwhelmed.

Thinking is good, but only if you really listen to what it is that you are thinking. I started to have 'thinking sessions' with Jennifer about 7-8 years ago, I hardly knew her at the time, but the bonus of our thinking sessions is that we have got a lovely friendship, and it's a level of friendship that I would say is quite rare.

The whole idea of having thinking sessions is based on the book 'Time to Think' by Nancy Kline. She uses this technique with individuals in business and all walks of life.

Thinking to be heard

How it works is that you have a thinking partner and you can set up a session, for example for an hour. One of you is the thinker and the other is the listener. When it is your turn to think, the listener really listens to you, there are no interruptions, no questions raised, you know that there is space for you to think out loud and nobody will interrupt you – it's a precious time, we don't often get that in our lives really, not for that amount of time, especially nor for a whole hour.

So you think out loud, just say what's in you mind. Sometimes I have a topic to talk about, it could be something to do with my business or it could something that has occupied my mind for a while and I want to hear what it is that I'm really thinking about it.

Sometimes I don’t have a specific topic at all, I just want to think and to have those lovely ears listening for what it is that I want to say. What happens is that because I have this unconditional listening there for me, I sort out my thinking, I move on with my thoughts.

Often I come up with inspiring insights about myself, and my business. Sometimes I come up with solutions to something that I've been stuck with, something that I didn't know how to go about.

Here is a question for you…How would your life feel like, be like, if you had that kind of listening for you on a regular basis?