Why is it that we are so reluctant to talk about sex?

I shared with some friends from school what it is that I do for work and when I told them there was complete silence around the table…

We use to spend time together when we were around 10-15 years old and we still keep in touch which is really nice. When I visit Sweden, we spend  an evening out together or we stay over night in someone's home, this time they came over to London to visit me.

Then one of them asked me how it's going with my business, and what is it that I do… really?

I answered the question saying that I work with women who want to feel more sparkly, want to feel more feminine sensual and sexy. And I said that sometimes I work with them teaching them how to experience and enjoy sex in a different way – there was complete silence around the table and I could sense they started to squirm. Even when I explained that I didn't mean different positions, or techniques, more about intimacy, one of them just changed the subject.

Again, I realised and I was reminded how tricky it can be for women to talk about sex, it seems to be a really sensitive topic to talk about, and I really wonder what the reason for that is. I've been there myself, so I understand the reaction, but I have forgotten about it, and I need to remind myself that many women are not really ready yet to talk about it.

Why should we talk about it, you might wonder? Because it's healthy and refreshing and it so human to want to experience and find pleasure in feeling nice and warm and sexy – to feel alive.

When women come to my workshops they are really pleased to find out how nice it is to meet other women and to start to open up a bit about the area of sex. They say it really helps them. They really appreciate that they know that they are not alone and that there is something that they can do about whatever situation it is they find themselves in relation to sex.

I would love to hear from you, what are your thoughts about this topic? If you don't want to leave a comment, you can e-mail me directly.