Women like You - who I work with

Sue is 45 years old and has an older brother, a younger sister and her parents are still alive. Her parents are quite conservative in their outlook which means that they often don't agree with her choices in life, and rather than supporting her, they tend to undermine her confidence.

Sue is married and has two children, a girl and a boy, who are now 14 and almost 16. She has always been quite close to them but in the last 12 months it has felt like a gap is developing between them, they are not as close any more. Sue feels that she is losing them and she doesn’t know what to do about it.

Sue has been a stay-at-home mum since the children were born. She and her husband are well off financially so she doesn't have to work now. But lately she really wants to find a job, she want it for HER, not for the anything else. She finds the day-to-day running of the house and ferrying the children around after school, exhausting and has no time for herself.

She has been married since her mid-twenties and her husband is the same age as her. They fell in love and had a really exciting life together. Traveling and discovering the world together. Planning and creating a family together. But it now feels like life hasn’t turned out the way that she wanted. Her daily routine is so boring and repetitive.

Sue is self-aware and she knows that it's not about the "things" in her life, because if it was, she would feel inspired and excited about herself and her life. She loves her husband very much and they have two gorgeous children who are doing well at school, a lovely 4-bed detached home, go on two nice holidays a year and have lots of friends.

But the sparkle has gone and she is worried what's going to happen when the kids move out and they are on their own AGAIN! She knows that it will not sort itself out on its own, she knows that SHE has to do something about it NOW.

Overall, she feels unfulfilled, flat, bored and unsexy, and has a low libido. She used to like sex a lot, but now finds it boring and unfulfilling. She rarely has sex with her husband, but when she does, it's more of a "phew" thank goodness that’s done, we don't have to do this for some time again now. She does love him though but she feels they have lost the intimacy.

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Louise is 38 years old and has a partner, Steve, for the last 8 years and they bought their first house together 5 years ago. She's got a well paid, full time job as an Sales Manager for a software company in the City. She and her partner don’t know if they want to have children but she feels the pressure from friends and society that she "should" have children, sometimes she even feels a bit broody. But she’s not really sure.

Her job involves long hours and the commute means she feels exhausted, all the time. After a long week in the office, most Friday nights after a couple of glasses of wine, she falls asleep on the sofa.  Which isn’t great for any relationship!

She is struggling to achieve a work-life balance, her life is so busy and she can’t see how she could fit in children anyway, with all this daily stress.

Louise is successful at work and well-liked by her colleagues but it still seems unfulfilling somehow.

She never has time to go to the gym any more or spend quality, fun time with her partner, Steve. Come to think of it, she hasn’t seen her friends much lately either!

Overall, she feels tired and flat. Louise feels that the fun and excitement has gone. Life has become a bit of a ‘groundhog’ day and she isn’t enjoying her life as it is now, as much as she thought she would!
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Amanda is now 52. She has a really full and busy life. She has been married (second marriage for them both) for the last 5 years. She has 2 children from her first marriage.

She runs her own successful online business, she works long hours and it does affect her relationship with her husband. They used to be closer, more intimate, and they used to have a hot sex life. But she noticed a change about a year ago. It was like they both ran out of steam, just like they used up all their inspiration and excitement about being together and she has been wondering if it's the beginning of the end of their relationship. But she really doesn't want that to happen.

Amanda has had conversations with her husband about this a number of times, and they both agree that something has to be done, to make sure that they will live a more fun and exciting life together. They have been to a marriage counsellor, but it didn’t really work and it didn't feel the right thing for them.

She wants to feel more feminine, sensual and attractive. She knows that she has to start to work on herself. She wants to feel fit and healthy. She has tried a number of things, but easily gets bored with gyms and similar exercises.

She wants to take her relationship with her husband to a new and exciting level before it's too late! She wants more intimacy and closeness with him, to feel more fulfilled and happy.

Disclaimer:

All women clients in these case studies are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental. They are provided purely to give you an idea of the types of women I typically work with and the issues they may be experiencing in their lives.